“Are you living your best life?” I feel like I hear this phrase more and more these days so I actually put some serious thought into it. Am I living my best life?
I have spent 4 years (and counting) working really hard on my business, teaching fitness classes, continuing education, training personal clients along with making time for friendships, a relationship, family,..the list goes on. After deep thought, looking at my life, who I’ve become and where I am currently, I came to a happy conclusion.
After my Mom passed I made a promise to myself to make myself my #1 priority. I do not have children (yet) but I do own a business (it’s a child) and wear many hats. I believe that my purpose in life is to help others but was I helping myself? Prior to my Mom passing I was running a business on top of working in 3 gyms. Mostly because I love what I do and I love being surrounded by all the amazing people in our fitness community but I was also incredibility sleep deprived, I lost a lot of physical strength from not being able to work out like I used to, my diet, while still healthy, was inconsistent. My crazy-packed schedule pulled me away from being most productive and focused. I realized that, here I am educating and guiding people to their ultimate health but I wasn’t at my own. I made a strict decision to change that. I physically and mentally cannot help others if I don’t help myself, right?
Here are 3 big changes I made to work on “living my best life”:
• Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff: Stress comes in all forms, shapes, and sizes. Whether little stress or a lot, we all have stress. But, is stress worth your happiness and overall health? Absolutely not. There are some things in this world that we 100% cannot control but there are things that we 100% CAN control. I accepted the things in life that I can’t control and gained control of what I can. Acceptance is a HUGE part of this process. Life is simply not fair sometimes. We don’t have to like it but we have to understand that we are all put on this earth for a reason and things happen for a reason (whatever they may be). By accepting (not forgetting) and making a simple switch to my mindset, led me to a peaceful place. Stress the moments worth stressing (you’ll know those moments when you’re in them), don’t stress the unknown (waste of time), and live in the PRESENT. Enjoy it. Every day.
• Be Appreciate of What You Have: We are all very lucky to live in the United States. The USA is a land of an unlimited supply to anything and everything we want or “need”. This atmosphere is what creates jealousy, greed and the urge to want “more”. In this case, less is more. Value and appreciate what you do have and no longer focus on what you don’t have. There is gratitude in every day and something to be thankful for, every day. If there is something in life that you wish you had, make that a goal. Create a list of how to accomplish that goal and chip away until you accomplish it. For me, I have always wanted a beach house. That is nowhere in my near future but if it comes 30 years from now, I’ll be proud because I worked hard for it. But, in the meantime, I am grateful for what I have.
• Time for Yourself: I know this sounds so cliché but it’s so, so true. It is such an important ingredient to a healthy and happy life. Coming from an overbearing lifestyle, I lost any time for myself. And any free time I did have for myself, I just wanted to catch up on sleep. Sleep is essential but you should never put yourself in a place where you’re denying a weekend of creating memories with friends and family so you can sleep. This was weekly for me and I missed out on spending more time with my Mom and my friends. So, I decided that I was turning around what started as a negative year for me and making it my year of YES. Anything I wanted to do, I say yes to. I eased up my schedule by leaving 2 of the 3 gyms (tear, all great facilities), I rearranged my hours and schedule and learned to say no to things that I knew were not worth my health. I’ve made a mental note of all the people in my life that I love and have been carving time to see everyone to make up for lost time. Remember, this is what life is about – health, people we love, and creating memories.
Living your best life doesn’t mean having an unlimited bank account, although it provides convenience it doesn’t provide internal happiness. Living your best life means – are you HEALTHY (without it you have nothing), are you HAPPY, do you wake up every day with PURPOSE, do you go to bed SATISFIED, are you surrounded by good PEOPLE that bring you POSITIVITY? After a few clean-ups the past 5 months I will say, I am living in my present and my present tells me that I am living my best life and I hope my readers will tell me the same!